It might be hard for some brides to believe in this day and age of reality shows that cover the best and the worst of All Things Wedding - from Bridezillas to My Fair Wedding and beyond - but sometimes, the best weddings are small, intimate affairs from a handful of guests to just the happy couple and their witnesses.     It's not necessarily about the money it takes to host a huge wedding event. Besides the fact that it could be a second marriage ("been there,

 You've had the wedding (and the wedding cake), you moved on to the baby shower (and the baby shower cake), you graduated to the "welcome new baby!" stage (yeah, there's a cake for that, too!) -- and now, it's time to start making some new memories . . . the ones that happen every year when you celebrate the birthday of that wonderful new family member. First birthdays, well, they're a big deal, that's for sure. Even if the star of the show (aka, the Birthday